You’re trying to prepare the systemic-therapy process properly: you don’t want to be in the room again unless the topic areas are defined in advance, because otherwise it produces no substance and repeats the old destructive pattern (like in 2023). The system psychologist agrees that preparation and clear “themes” are necessary.

  Compared to 2023, you feel less dependent now. That changes the power dynamic: if your parents want “equal thirds” later, they need an actual strategy that works with EL rules. Otherwise, you’re prepared to accept a different outcome (even no inheritance) and also to reduce or end contact—because continuing in a “just wait until they’re gone” mode is emotionally toxic.

  A key obstacle is your father’s “don’t mix topics” argument, which you see as a control tactic: it prevents systemic therapy and keeps the financial/strategy questions off the table, especially because your mother and aunt don’t fully understand the implications. You also compare this to broader “no consequences” dynamics in politics (people pushing limits because they can).

  You’re looking for a way to break the control loop, set clear conditions for the process, and move toward real perspective-building rather than passive dependence.

  If you want, paste the exact 5–7 topic headings you’d propose for the system psychologist, and I’ll condense them into a clean one-page agenda in English.

  

  

  

  

  Kiwis ripen atleast 10x faster together with an apple; last TimE I mentioned this was before my YT career;